Marriage advice...Leaving Husband...?

Question

im here to vent more than anything...but i also need some kind of good support...i know in the end its my decision and my decision only...but this is a big change for me and frankly im scared..i dont do good with change at all! So me and my husband been married for 8 years...we have 3 kids age he is a wonderful father...a great dad to his kids..i am also 6 months pregnant...but..We argue nonstop...for the past few months literally i dunno last 7 months he has been drinking nonstop....we are barely making it money wise...let alone afford his beer habits and all...when he drinks he will drink brandy and beer....at times...and when we only have 5 bucks to our name he will get beer ...he becomes very cocky..and very annoying...when he gets drunk...and even start crap with me for no reason..just to get on my nerves...im not saying i am no angel here there is times i may say things out of line or etc...but i dont do as near as the things he does and has...as soon as he walks in the door he complains about everything why the house isnt spotless and etc etc...i do clean...as much as i can..i have 3 kids running around and im pregnant..and im depressed...i have a car that will only make it 2 mins down the road b4 it goes hot on me...i am always dealing with that...my family lives 30 to 40 mins away ..and i just feel like the walls are inclosing in on me....persay...i never have money to do anything...nor a car to get anywhere except take my son to school....i am not some uptown girl i dont need alot of things to make me happy as long as bills are payed and food is on the table i am fine..but i must say i get tired of be enclosed all the time ...not too mention dealing with him and his attitude and the way he drinks and etc....i have no friends ....i am just here with me and my kids...he goes out and works 12 hours a day...why i sit in the house....i have come to the point of being so depressed that i spend alot of time on the computer ....now dont get me wrong i take care of my kids....i do i love them with all my heart ...but in any spare time i get im on here with people i have made friends with and etc....its like an escape for me to go to and actually have fun and be myself...without all the crap here and etc....the thing is with my husband....i frankly do not want to have sex with him ...the last time i did ..i was just sicken by it and was in tears...bc i just did not want too....last night he was drunk i was on the computer reading some articles on the net and etc...and he comes and sits right up on me next to me...then starts to insult me and just nag nag nag...i told him to leave me alone he just refused to listen to me but kept acting like a child and kept going and going...the whole thing was he was telling me something that he has already told me on numerious times and frankly i get so tired of when he gets drunk he repeats himself and just doesnt shut up...i asked him to talk about something else or to stop talking about that all the time ....it wasnt a big deal really i could have sat here...and listen to him brag about the dogs againnnnn like he always likes to do..which is annoying and he is the type if he is talking to you...he will tell you look at me...or if your not looking at him he will be like you hear me? so annoys me so i told him to stop that he was aggravating me ...and that in return...he started to insult me with little things and before we knew it ...it was a full blown arguement...he literally put his face up to mine..you know how some people will literally get all up in your face and talk smack..well he was doing that and i told him what exactly i thought of him bc i felt it and i was tired of it and i put my hand in his face never touch him though...it was more like get out of my face like talk to the hand sorta thing lol but wasnt meaning to do the talk to the hand lol ...was just trying to get him out of my face....well he started calling me names and etc...and then slammed his hand on my arm...and roughed me around a little then did it again to my wrist....then i told him to take his hands off of me ..he tells me there is consquences to my actions and etc etc...that i provoke him to be the way he was and etc and no i felt it was the other way around with nagging me and me saying nicely several times just leave me alone and etc....i dunno my kids love him to death and i would really hate to break up the family...but i just dont know what to do anymore the more and more i try...i just get so unhappy..im not happy....im depressed..all i do is cry..i dont ever feel like doing anything i just i dunno....so basically i just wanted some advice and etc...please no rude comments bc this is as real as it gets to real....and it may be silly to some people but to me it isnt i have to live with it everyday...

i know i got alot into detail but it just felt i needed too..to get the advice ..and etc...thanks guys and i appreciate it

Answer 1

uh leave him its gonaa be hard by the sound of it but worth it in the end

Answer 2

Honey break your rants up into paragraphs.

Sorry for what you're going through, but I couldn't keep my place in that thing.

Answer 3

You need to leave and the sooner the better - maybe not forever but as long as your there and dont give him any consequences to his action and act on them he will continue doing what he is doing.  If you think you still love him and may still want to be with him just tell him that if he does not stop you will leave.. and actually do it..he may finally realize you are serious and stop doing stupid stuff.. but you also have to be prepared in the case that he does not stop - you have to be ready to do everything on your own as a single mom.  I know you dont want to beak up your family but you have to realize that in the end it may even be better for this kids.. if he gets drunk a lot he may do something really stupid one day and harm your kids.. and you dont want it to come to that